Do you think she’s pregnant?
If you think she could be pregnant, it’s tempting to think of it as “her problem.” But she needs you now more than ever – and you need to be there for her. But you don’t have to do it alone. We can help – contact us today to learn more about how, or keep reading to get some tips and advice for what to do next.
What you can do
Communicate: Talk with her and listen to her. Keep the lines of communication open between the two of you at all times. DO NOT close yourself off emotionally! This situation is bigger than you, and you need to be open to discussion.
Be Available: Many men make the mistake of getting angry, sad, or otherwise closing themselves off from their partner. Don’t let yourself make that mistake. Simply being there for her – whether it’s spending time together at home, going to appointments together, or just listening when she needs someone – means a lot.
Don’t Keep Secrets: Pregnancy isn’t something you should try to hide. Be open and trusting with the people you’re close with and care about. Friends, family members, and other loved ones can be a great source of support and guidance – but they need to know how to help you first. Keeping secrets will only add to your stress and hers.
Educate Yourself: Not sure what to expect or what your options are? Collect information and seek advice from trustworthy sources. Our center can help you learn what steps and options are available to you.
Express Your Feelings: It’s normal to have different feelings and emotions when confronted with an unexpected pregnancy. No two people react the same way. Be open and honest about your thoughts and feelings. Don’t hide yourself or keep your emotions bottled up inside.
What not to do
Don’t Run: The biggest thing not to do is to run from your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid this situation, the harder things will get for the three of you. It’s important that you take responsibility and face whatever comes next together.
Don’t Pressure: Remember that she has just as much a say in what happens next as you do. You need to work together as a team, not pressure or cajole her into doing what you want.
Don’t Do Nothing: Being there is important, but it doesn’t mean you can just “show up.” You need to be an active partner and to give your thoughts, feelings, and opinion on issues that matter to both of you. Remember, this is your life too. Take some initiative and have an active role in how it plays out.